This week we celebrated my sweet little guy’s fourth birthday. As some of you may have sensed (since I’ve received some really sweet and extremely helpful emails), that while this little guy is completely amazing there are a few things that haven’t seemed quite right. He’s been tested a few times and the results have come back with labels or a shrug of the shoulders. I’ve read book after book, taken a neurodevelopment class, scoured the internet and blogs. Gathering little bits of information through it all, has helped me learn more how to advocate for my son, so that he doesn’t get lost in the cracks. Not to write him off or jump to medication or say that he’s not smart, but to reach out and find how to help him maximize his potential, to straighten out any areas that may be confused in his little body and to make sure he knows he’s loved and not “difficult” through the process. I’ve done a lot of pushing, calling, research, exercises… advocating. Recently, Chris and I have seen a turn in Noah. A good one. We are confident that if we keep plugging away, those areas that are confused in Noah will no longer be. He will no longer be trying to search an unorganized pile of answers inside his head, but be able to find it and file it away where it belongs.
Thank you dear Noah for teaching me to advocate, it is helping me learn how to advocate for your little sister.
Chris and I have been waiting since January to receive our referral from our agency. We’ve read about the child soldiers, the witches, the rape and are ready to travel and pick up our Elaine Love. As time has gone by, I’ve been able to make connections by once again searching the internet, making contact with people who are going through the same thing, reading books and taking classes. I’ve learned more about our agency, other agencies, and the process that is still left in picking her up. And once again, we are plugging away. I can’t share it all right now, but we are moving forward in the process, and hopeful.
Its not in my personality. Sometimes it includes things like confrontation or perhaps an annoying and constant push. But that’s what we mamas do for the little ones we love!